Using introversion to your advantage

There are many different personality types, all with their own advantages and disadvantages, but one that doesn’t get shouted about enough is the power of introversion. Here, chartered psychologist Dr Audrey Tang shares six reasons to celebrate introverts

CREDIT: This is an edited version of an article that originally appeared on Happiful

I enjoy solitude; it gives me time to re-energise. Like many of you who may feel the same, it’s not that we introverts can’t deal with social situations – I can ‘turn on the charm’ – but need time to myself to recharge.

The terms ‘introversion’ and ‘extroversion’ are colloquially understood as ‘Extroverts are outgoing and introverts are quiet loners’. This common misunderstanding is an oversimplification of psychoanalyst Carl Jung’s original approach. According to Jung, these two concepts are, in fact, preferences. “Each person seems to be energised more by the external world (extroversion) or the internal world (introversion).”

Both can perform well in quiet and busy scenarios, but they are best energised by situations relating to their preference. There are benefits to each and, while the social charm of the extrovert is often celebrated, it’s time we took a look at how the ‘introvert advantage’ can even the score.

The world is full of ‘social’ and ‘solitary’ situations

If you need others to help you recharge after working alone, it’s not always easy to find people exactly when you need them – everyone has their own life. As an introvert, solitary time may be refreshing, and you are likely to be quite self-sufficient in your recharge pursuits.

It may be worth, however, being mindful of the small group of people with whom you do feel comfortable, and to try to make plans to check-in with them once in a while – just as an option.

You don’t often need someone else to motivate you

If you want to do something, you might find a useful ‘How to’ video, or seek out the information yourself. You don’t mind trying things out on your own; you enjoy your own company on walks, and over a meal or a coffee. However, you may find it can be hard to ask for help sometimes. Remember that there is a lot of help out there, but it’s also OK to choose carefully who you come back to.

You’re rarely lonely

Loneliness is sometimes confused with isolation – the latter is being physically alone, the former is a feeling of sadness because loved ones are not there. However, you may be happy to know friends and family are around, but don’t always need to see them.

Don’t fear telling people that you love them, you think of them, but you don’t always need to see them. Find other ways of showing you care, such as with a handwritten note or a video message.

You’re less affected by competition

It seems everyone is an expert these days, and it can be quite easy for people to be influenced into thinking that they need to do things in a certain way – but you are quietly confident with what works for you.

However, it’s important to keep an open mind. When you have more choices available, you can be even more effective – so watch, read and learn, but know it’s OK to still choose a tried and tested path.

You’re not usually bored

You’ll often have enough to keep you occupied, but that doesn’t mean you’ll always make efficient use of time, especially if you have a tendency to get ‘in the zone’ to the exclusion of other things.

Have a routine, and try to stick to it as much as you can – for example, if you’re working from home, try to keep relatively set hours for work and breaks, as well as different locations, if you can, to keep separate business and pleasure.

You think things through

Often, when others are thinking about what they are going to say next, you are pondering the situation and so, when you make a contribution, it’s a good one. The only problem is that, sometimes, the conversation may have already moved on.

Consider using a notepad to write down your ideas and thoughts so that you have something to refer to. If you find yourself put on the spot, you can look at your ideas and remain unflustered.

There are indeed advantages if your preference falls on the introversion side of the scale.

Ask yourself:
• How am I best energised? (By people I love? By being alone? When engaged in a hobby?)
• How often do I do this?
• How can I make more time for it?

… and then do it.