Connecting with your neighbour

Tear down those fences (not literally!) and connect with the community on your doorstep

CREDIT: This is an edited version of an article that originally appeared on Happiful

For some, the pandemic created a greater sense of community; staying close to home meant people helped each other out more. However, most people still aren’t familiar with who lives on their streets; 73% of people in the UK saying they don’t know their neighbours. Life coach Sohaila Sophia offers some great advice on why and how to better connect with your neighbours.

Lend me some sugar

“Even just a simple ‘Hello’ every day can give our wellbeing a huge boost! Increased social connection supports our mental wellbeing and decreases our rates of anxiety and depression. A sense of social connection is one of our fundamental human needs,” says Sohaila.

A sense of community helps to build our sense of belonging, making us feel safer and more comfortable. More than that, a quick hello, chat, or longer conversation, could develop into a meaningful friendship. On a more pragmatic level, it’s great to be able to pop next door to ask to borrow their hedge trimmer, sugar or know you’d have someone to turn in an emergency.

Reach for the stars

It’s normal to feel nervous about getting to know your neighbours. To build your confidence, start with small actions, and breaking down barriers, such as smiling, waving or saying good morning.

Don’t be disheartened if they don’t seem to acknowledge you – they might have been distracted or having a bad day but, by making an effort, at least you’ll know you’ve tried. “You will probably find a lot of neighbours are pleased you started the initial conversation with them, and are happy to keep this going, and create more social connections within the community” says Sohaila.

Meet at the crossroads

“Once you’re comfortable with general and light communication, you can then take this further if you wish to. Perhaps suggest a coffee one afternoon, or going on a walk together. If you have pets or children, you can involve them too, so that it can easily form part of your day” suggests Sohaila.

If this sounds nerve-wracking, it could be worth looking at what’s already going on locally. Many places have community centres and group activities, which offer a great way to meet new people in your area.

It can take time to get to know our neighbours, but the wellbeing benefits make it worth the effort. Start with a ‘Hello’, a smile and see where it takes you! You may find you make a great new friend, or have someone to turn to next time you forget your keys.